Coaching

Ask the Right Questions

Posted by on Mar 9, 2012 | 0 comments

Ask the Right Questions

Sometimes, asking “why?” can be a trap. A typical individual coaching client comes to me wanting to do something (it could be anything – find a job, write a book, earn a promotion, get in shape) and looking for my help. Very likely by the time he comes to me, he has been thinking about it for a while. He probably feels stuck and unable to close the gap between what is and what he wants it to be. The temptation for some of these clients is to delve into explaining to me why  they have not done what they say they want. Reasons range from the practical (it’s hard, they don’t...

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DIY – Ten Questions Coaches Ask to Improve Work Effectiveness and Satisfaction

Posted by on Aug 4, 2010 | 0 comments

Are you satisfied with your work life and performance? Here are some great questions to ask yourself if you want to improve your effectiveness, satisfaction,  and overall happiness.What are my top three work priorities? Biggest challenges? What are my three greatest strengths? What is my greatest weakness? When and under what circumstances am I most effective? How do I waste time and energy? What would make my job more fun? What would make me feel proud? What am I tolerating? What work relationships are most important to me and who are my strongest allies? Where do I most want to...

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Walking My Talk

Posted by on Jul 6, 2010 | 0 comments

A good friend of mine recently asked me if being a coach makes me feel like I have to do everything perfectly. I told her that I don’t feel that way, but that I do feel an obligation to “walk my talk.” But what does that really mean? For me, it means that I need to do what I ask of my clients: * Dream big * Set specific goals * Be accountable * Take action * Question assumptions * Stretch * Risk failure * Celebrate success * Care for myself * Be grateful The list goes on …. geez, that’s a lot! And of course there are many times when I am not walking my talk. Maybe I know...

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Coaching & Therapy

Posted by on Jun 6, 2010 | 0 comments

  People often ask me what is the difference between coaching and therapy. Much is made of the differences, usually by one side seeking to disparage the other side. Therapists claim that coaching – which is three decades old and largely unregulated – lacks the rigor and substance of psychotherapy and is little better than snake oil. Meanwhile, coaches argue that therapy is backward-looking, inefficient, and pathologizing. But these self-serving critiques do neither side justice. Both disciplines have their place in helping people to lead happier, more fulfilling lives.Choosing one...

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This is Only a Test

Posted by on Apr 26, 2010 | 0 comments

  Today I spoke with Gretchen Rubin, best-selling author of The Happiness Project, about her book, happiness, and coaching. Our conversation touched on the importance of taking action. Gretchen’s project was all about test-driving a wide range happiness theories and practices to see if DOING things made her FEEL HAPPIER. In pursuit of happiness, she read a lot (I mean a lot), and thought a lot, but the focus was on doing (a lot!)In my coaching practice, I expect my clients to get into action right away. Sometimes clients are caught off guard by the need to take action before they...

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What Are The Hard Questions?

Posted by on Sep 23, 2009 | 0 comments

  On my home page I refer to “hard questions,” but what do I mean? Hard questions are the ones that we politely avoid most of the time. They are the questions that, when asked, upset the apple cart, demand that we change. They challenge assumptions, require honesty, make us sit up straighter, and bring us together.For example: You are leading a meeting at which you are discussing implementation of Plan A. There is no energy or enthusiasm in the room as you assign action items. Suppose, instead of forging you asked, “What are we really trying to achieve and will Plan A...

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