Relationships

Networking is Not a Dirty Word

Posted by on Dec 1, 2011 | 0 comments

Networking is Not a Dirty Word

Many of my career coaching clients cringe at the word “networking.” But I think networking gets a bad rap. When undertaken in the right spirit, building relationships can be fun as well as helpful. And you don’t have to be Keith Ferrazi to do it. Here are some of the main complaints about networking, and my responses.     Objection: Networking feels manipulative, like I am using people.Expand your perspective and take the long view. It’s not all about you. Networking is relationship and community building, and it is reciprocal. When you connect and form a new...

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How Much Beer Do I Need for My Son’s Fifth Birthday Party?

Posted by on May 22, 2011 | 0 comments

I’m feeling pretty emotional tonight — alternately weepy and wistful. Today my son (the baby) graduated from preschool and then we had a big party to celebrate his 5th (fifth!) birthday. Now, exhausted and more than a little wound up, I am blogging for the first time in months. I used to scoff at kiddie graduation ceremonies. But now I see the value of this rite of passage. My son is old enough to comprehend that something special is ending and something new and unknown is coming. He patiently explained to me that the graduates would sing “Silver and Gold” because...

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Thanks, Moms!

Posted by on Sep 24, 2010 | 0 comments

Here’s a shout out to all the stay-at-home moms (and dads) out there – thank you for all you do, not just for your own kids but for my kids too. I am writing this from my hotel room in Pt. Reyes, California where I am staying for a client off-site retreat that Leigh Marz and I are conducting with a partnership of non-profit organizations. I feel privileged to work with this talented, committed, and ambitious group. And what made this work possible was the support of my husband and the help of no fewer than four mothers of my children’s friends, who have hosted my son for...

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How Much is Enough?

Posted by on Sep 4, 2010 | 0 comments

Money. We all need it, and daily we make decisions large and small about how to use it. We are constantly bombarded with news of the economy, and many of us have definite opinions about the local, national, and world economies. But when it comes to personal finances, we are often vague and uncomfortable. Talking about our finances is unseemly, pretty nearly taboo. You can be sexually intimate with someone, but don’t ask what your lover’s income is. Despite our diffidence in talking about it, money is a big driver for most of us – determining what job we take, where we live, and...

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Five Tips for When the Parenting Honeymoon is Over

Posted by on Sep 1, 2010 | 0 comments

What do we do when the first bloom of parenthood wears off and reality sets in? In marriage, it is called the “seven year itch,” when many a husband or wife tires of the reality of life with their spouse. But this experience is not limited to marital partners, says  divorce lawyer and mediator Alison Patton in a recent blog. Parents, too, may feel the itch.  What then? You can’t divorce your kids. Patton describes facing the realization that her kids were flawed human beings when they were about seven. She saw reflections of her own behaviors in her children and realized...

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In Praise of Partnership*

Posted by on Jun 21, 2010 | 0 comments

  I’m not sure when “partner” became a verb, and truth be told, my inner lexicographer probably winced the first few times I heard it. But now I have adopted it whole-heartedly. So much so that today I partnered with a terrific coach and consultant, Leigh Marz, to interview for an exciting consulting project involving three non-profit entities that are — you guessed it — partnering in service of a shared mission.Partnership offers so much more than going it alone. For Leigh and me, partnering provides complementarity of skills and experience. Our...

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